Bullying solutions

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Bullying solutions

Bullying is chronic throughout our society. Almost everyone has had some experience of it, either as the victim, the bully or the bystander. In extreme cases it leads to suicide or a vengeful massacre, but despite many efforts to stop it, it still goes on, in schools, in families and in the workplace. People are crying out for solutions, and I present some very practical and inspiring ones in my double award winning, young adult magical realism novel,  You Can’t Shatter Me.

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If all bystanders stood up to bullies, there would be no more bullying. This story is designed to encourage bystanders to find the courage to step in, also to give victims ways to handle being harassed and for bullies to find alternative ways to feel powerful.  

Low self esteem is often cited as the underlying cause of the problem, and the revolutionary contribution that this book makes to solving the bullying issue is that it lays out a simple method that anyone can use to develop self-esteem on the deepest level. It also shows how love and compassion can be a powerful weapon against hatred and fear.

The following posts share the philosophy behind the story, one based on a Buddhist approach to dealing with enemies and my personal experience as a high school teacher. Resources and references are at the end of this page.

1:I hate bullying, do you? Enough to do something about it?

2: What makes something bullying?

3:Why do people bully?

4:The power of the bystander.

5:Are they bullies or someone who bullies?

6: How to avoid being bullied.

7: How to handle being bullied, part one, the usual approach

8: How to handle being bullied, part two, the unusual approach

9: How to handle being bullied, part three, the magical approach

10:How to handle internet Trolls.

11.How to stop engaging in bullying, part 1 – the usual approach

12: How to stop engaging in bullying, part 2 – the unusual approach

13: Why martial arts is good for boys (and girls)

14: Immunise yourself against the bullying disease.

15:Have the courage to care.

16: Solutions for bullying in an entertaining package

Image by Centrepiece Productions Design Studio.
More in their Stop Bullying series here.

You are welcome to use these images in your school.

Resources/references

Websites

Anti bullying websites

Excellent articles on Bullying

Meditation Websites

Reference books

Goldman, Daniel, July 20, 2009, Emotional Intelligence , Bloomsbury, New York.

Salzberg, Sharon, March 18, 1997, Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness. Shambhala, New York.

Sogyal Rinpoche, 2002, The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, (Chapters 4, 5 and 12), Harper Collins, New York.

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